QuestionHello, you recently had an anon 12 year old ask about getting binders without parental knowledge. I can't help get one for free, but I do know that I have a close friend who was 110% willing to add a binder for me to her order recently. If the anon finds a binder, I would suggest asking a friend whom they trust to ship the it to their house. We're exchanging at school, and she just passes it off as a favor to a friend to keep her parents out. Hope this helps!~Answer
QuestionHi! I'm a young girl (12) and have been confused about my gender for about a year. I have two questions. I'm not sure about the exact person I want to be and I don't know how to figure out. Am I too young to make this decision? All I know is the first thing I would like to do is buy a binder. My parents won't buy me one (not even for cosplay) and I don't have enough money to buy one. Is there any place where they give used/spare binders for for free? Sorry if this long~ Lennon <3Answer
Hi! No, 12 years old is not too young to be questioning your gender. Some kids know they’re trans in early childhood, & some people don’t figure it out until later on in life. As long as you are old enough to understand gender, you are old enough to wonder about it, question it & explore it.
I know it might be frustrating to not have access to a proper binder, but I need to remind you to pleasenever bind with ace bandages or any sort of wrap bcos these can constrict your lungs & cause damage to your breast tissue.
For now I suggest a sports bra. They’re meant to keep your chest relatively flat & you can pass it off as simply needing one for P.E or sports. I’m not sure of any places you can order an actual binder for cheap // free without your parents finding out, but I’ll look into it. Does anyone have any other suggestions?
QuestionHi I'm really ignorant to the trans struggle but to me it seems to be a fallout of gender roles. I've been learning about feminism and gender-critical feminism and I am NOT A TERF or hate trans people but I kinda think a huge chunk of trans people are trans because of gender roles. I had a small period of time where I thought I should have been born a guy because I was a huge tomboy but whatever, anyone can like anything no matter what's in their pants. It's confusing when dysphoria is argued. Answer
If you are cis then you have no business telling us why we’re trans. Bye.
-Matt
PS part of being a good ally and a decent human being is learning to shut the fuck up.
QuestionHi, I am non-binary but my mall only has male or female bathrooms. Which one do I use?Answer
Unless your mall has a family bathroom hidden somewhere, it’s up to you which bathroom to use. Some people avoid public bathrooms because they don’t think it’s worth the trouble.
Other people decide based on what gender they look like (AKA if they’re often seen as a boy by strangers, they will use the boys’ bathroom).
Ultimately, just try to use whichever bathroom you feel the most comfortable in.
QuestionHi, so I've recently-ish found out what non binary was and it scared me cause it basically defined how I have thought about myself since I was really young. But I never thought into it cause I was a tomboy and I thought everyone thought like this. Like forget their genders all the time and were just living. I really didn't think anyone really cared that much about gender except for the sexism stuff which is always stupid but I just wanted to ask does this sound like I'm non binary? Ty 4 the helpAnswer
You could very well be non-binary. The feelings are different for everyone.
QuestionHi, I´ve been questioning my identity for a while, and mostly this lays behind a reasoning of not being comfortable under the gender ¨girl¨. However, I´m very feminine. I love make-up, i love dresses and I love to overall engage in stereotypical female activities and is described as a very girly girl. I have the problem though that I am not comfortable with being assigned female pronouns. Would it be strange if I requested people to use other pronouns for me? Answer
First of all, there is nothing wrong with questioning your gender.
You could be a number of different genders, including a demigirl, genderfluid, etc.
Also there is no such thing as “female pronouns.” Pronouns don’t belong to any specific gender.
And you don’t need anyone’s permission to try out different pronouns. Use a variety until you find which ones work the best.
QuestionHi! I'm sorry if this was already asked, but I'm not really informed about trans terminology and since I use it within the MOGAI community, I feel incomfortable with it. What's the difference between transgender and transsexual? Which one is the most accurate? (meaning, is there one of the two which could be transphobic? just checking.)Answer
Yes hello friend.
Personally I don’t think either is offensive and it’s really just based on preferred terminology.
Transgender means you are a gender different from the gender you were assigned at birth. It’s an umbrella term.
Transsexual is sometimes used by trans people post-surgery.
Thanks for asking! If other mods have a more coherent explanation feel free to chime in.
-Matt
Transsexual is usually used by people who have a desire to transition or who have already transitioned.
For example, if a transgender person wants to have trans-related surgery or take hormones, then they can be a transsexual person,
but it’s better to not refer to people as transsexual unless you know they’re comfortable with it.
Go to your nearest target. Buy a two pack of pushup bras(24$ for 2), and target’s bra inserts (12$). Then go to your nearest Walmart and buy the Vasserette Control Shapewear Panties (2.50 each), they do wonders for helping your tuck. There you go! You just saved yourself a lot of money, you can afford to buy enough to wear every day, and best of all you look fabulous. -@twidx
recs for trans women are so rare on tumblr!! spread this, people.
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